Ask the Dating Analyst

Three Strikes Already

Profile: Frank, 50

If your looking for walks on the beach holding hands with a nice sunset, candle lit dinner over looking a romantic vista. Cuddling on the couch on a rainy day with a bowl of popcorn and an old movie, snuggling by the fire on a cold day, go get a Harlequin Romance novel and check out of life. That kind stuff happens with the person its suppose to happen with. Its a given. You shouldn't need to put it on a "wish" list. If you want to play full out have a great deal of fun with me in you life before your on your death bed wishing you would have then.

A perfect match for me would be someone that truly understands that the stronger the building the tougher getting in could be. A person that really and truly knows the relationship game. One that is not looking to turn and burn when it all not going her way. I am not into "ME" women. I have been often told I am like a marshmallow that has just come from a camp fire. A little burnt and tough on the outside. But, the inside is very soft warm and comfortable. have a bike (you wanting to ride is a deal breaker) that I am on most weekends and when the weathers bad we get out the Jeep. Just learning to play golf.

I do not wants someone looking to pick out houses, personal monogrammed towels or wedding invitations. Trust me when I say I am a great boyfriend but a lousy husband (I have the paper work to prove it, yea three time. Find out now or later you'll still find out. Run while ya still have a chance if ya want). I am looking for someone that can come back at me. Someone that will truly and full on engage the relationship on ALL levels. Someone whether out at a social even or in private moments can "bring it" a hold her own. Someone that looks just as good in an ole pair of jeans as in an evening gown. And is comfortable in both

LoveHowTo Dating Analyst's Take:

This big guy, albeit no grammarian, is an honest man with a very big chip on his shoulder. Perhaps he is still working out a whole list of injuries done to him in another relationship. He talks much about what he is NOT looking for: "one that is not looking to turn and burn when it [sic] all not going her way."

The more he does this the more one feels the presence of another woman in the room. He is talking to her still, expressing his disappointment, hurt and anger. And then we get a bit of his passions - outdoors with engines and taking up golf. But he can't resist getting us back to his dark mood. "Trust me when I say I an a great boyfriend but a lousy husband." Who is he talking to now? Certainly not to the gal he'd like to meet. Hey Frank, maybe you're not quite ready yet.

Dating Analyst Tom Dichter is a cultural anthropologist and writer, married with four children and four grandchildren. He has had an international career and is now based in France.