Ask the Dating Analyst
Looking for an Honest Man
Profile: Hilary, age 30
I want the man who is too busy to call but does it anyway. The guy who can look in my eyes and see that I would give him anything and everything just to show him that he's loved...and appreciates it.
I want the guy who says he wants a relationship and is willing to put in the work to have it.I want a man who is honest. And I want the one who isn't always poised to jump because he's waiting for the next shiny thing to show up.
Someone asked me recently what I'm looking for and I didn't have a ready answer. But I've given it a lot of thought since then and what it boils down to is that I want someone that will love me as much as I love him. Without reservation and baggage. Someone who can bury whatever ghosts of the past there are and move forward. Because I love life and I see too much to enjoy to spend my time fighting the past. I want someone that's ready for adventure and fun. Or just to curl up and hang out together at home. Preferably a lot of both. What do I have to offer? A never ending sense of wonder in the world and a total desire to be one of the reasons you want to wake up in the morning. And of course a bit of girl insanity to keep things exciting :P
Be real. I didn't realize until recently how much that is to ask.
LoveHowTo Dating Analyst’s Take:
Hilary’s profile lets us know she’s been around a bit and knows what hurt is. But she doesn’t dwell on it. Instead she states clearly what kind of person she wants and gets to the core of the matter - his character. Hilary’s first line almost says it all, simply and eloquently: “I want the man who is too busy to call but does it anyway.” Her last line says the rest. “Be real. I didn’t realize until recently how much that is to ask.” We wish her luck.
Dating Analyst Tom Dichter is a cultural anthropologist and writer, married with four children and four grandchildren. He has had an international career and is now based in France.| < Prev | Next > |
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