Intimacy

Activity

Then

Now

Playing with food

From messing around with strained peas to food fights, this one’s a classic.

Try making out while sharing strawberries. Then branch out into melon, pears…other fruits and on beyond kissing.

Reading out loud

Mom used to read to you every night to help you go to sleep.

You and your lover can read select passages from Anais Nin’s Delta of Venus or anything that turns you on.

Fingerpainting

Remember how much fun it was to slide the paint around on shiny paper?

Get out the can of Redi-Whip and the syrups and try painting on each other’s bodies. Or try something a little more targeted.

Rolling down hills

On a sled (or cafeteria tray) in the winter, inhaling the freshly mown grass in summer.

You can roll around together on hills and flat ground, preferably sand dunes – but in warm weather unless you’re a member of the Polar Bear Club.

Sleepovers

You got to stay up late talking about everyone and everything. The best kind of bonding.

Staying the night is still the best kind of bonding.

Getting a new toy

The TV commercials drove you mad with toylust. You just couldn’t be satisfied until you got the latest, coolest toy.

You get your toylust from plenty of sources these days, including those fabulous online catalogs. Why wait for Christmas to surprise your lover with a grownup present?

Shared baths

Typically with a sibling or parent, it was always fun to play games in the tub.

It’s even more fun now, especially in a spa tub where you have room to move and bubbles. Plan to make a night of it.

Playing doctor

“Stick out your tongue and say aah.”

“You’re going to need a full examination. This might take a while.”